Relationships

How to Avoid Seven-Year Itch In A Relationship

Susy WulfFebruary 8, 20223 mins read

If you have ever been in a long-term marriage, chances are you have heard of the “seven-year itch.” It refers to the point where one or both of the partners become dissatisfied or bored in the relationship. Although this is not a common experience for every couple (in fact some experts don’t believe it’s even a real thing), the concept of the seven-year itch is essential to be able to avoid similar pitfalls in your relationship, no matter how long you’ve been together.

One of the experts that believes the idea of the seven-year itch is not as real is Dr. Mark Mayfield. He is a licensed counselor (LPC), and the founder and CEO of Mayfield Counseling Centers. The seven-year-itch is a myth according to me. Why? Woman’s Day is told by Dr. Mayfield that in a committed relationship, wandering eyes or affairs should never be considered. Are there difficult times in a relationship?” Yes. It takes effort, intention, and commitment to be in a relationship. Love is not a feeling that comes and goes, but a choice that takes effort.

Marianna Strongin, a licensed psychologist, sees couples who use the term to describe the hardships in their relationships. Woman’s Day is told by Dr. Strongin that therapy often uses the term to talk about the growth of a relationship. We spend a lot of time with couples who refer to this term in their marriage. This is a wonderful time for couples to evaluate and examine what is working and what is not.

Dr. Mayfield suggests that no matter how your relationship is structured, it doesn’t matter how long you have been together.

There are many cycles in a marriage that can make some years more difficult than others. Dr. Mayfield says that year one is the most difficult for a marriage as couples get used to each others. The introduction of children into the marriage system in year two can make it difficult for a couple. Because kids go to school, year seven can be difficult for a marriage. Because kids leave the home, year 21 can be difficult for a marriage.

It is hard to accept that we are naturally selfish and learn humility and selflessness. It is not an easy task to build relationships. Dr. Mayfield explained that while feelings of love may pass, the decision to love another person is deliberate, hard, beneficial, and worthwhile.

These healthy habits, along with time spent in couples therapy and building communication skills can prove beneficial to any relationship, regardless of the anniversary.

If you feel the seven-year itch, don’t despair. According to Dr. Strongin, it is a time when you can reprioritize your relationship’s health through therapy.

The seven-year itch can be either normal or abnormal, depending on the root cause. Dr. Strongin states that this is a good time to talk with each other about what’s causing the dissatisfaction. If this becomes difficult, it is a good time to seek therapy. Therapy can help you narrow down the problem and address it head-on. Couples therapy can be very effective when they are motivated to improve their relationship.

Susy Wulf
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Susy Wulf is a journalist, copywriter, editor and journalist. She has a BA degree in English from Monmouth University, and a MA in Global Communications (American University of Paris).

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